When is it Time?

Deciding "the right time" is one of the most important and emotional choices a family can face. What are the signs that change is needed?

Poor Hygiene - Infrequent bathing, dirty clothing or seldom changed, urine stains and smells.
Frequent hospitalizations - or doctor visits.
Memory changes - Repetitive conversations, difficulty operating a phone or remote control, missed appointments.
Unintentional weight loss - Spoiled food, poor food choices.
Personality Changes - Social isolation, decreased participation in family activities, giving up hobbies, unrealistic fears.
Caregiver burnout - Increasing responsibility has fallen on family member(s).

Falls or safety concerns - Bruises or accidents, decreased mobility and increased balance issues.
Medication mistakes - missed doses, complicated medication routine
Unintentional weight loss - Skipping meals, evidence of spoiled or uneaten food.
Depression - Unreasonable decisions or actions, lack of interest, including seclusion.
Family burnout - Poor sleep, sense of guilt, anger, loneliness, feeling overwhelmed, or an increase in the caregiver's health issues.

WAYS TO MOVE FORWARD

Talk to Family Member(s) - Bring a list of discussion items. Be compassionate, committed and patient.
Bring in trusted professionals: Doctors and case managers can help validate concerns and guide decisions.
Consider Short-Term stays so that people can experience facility living.
Be gentle and patient: Change can be intimidating. Begin by expressing your concern, not criticism.
Use real examples: Point to specific incidents (e.g., missed medications, falls) rather than general fears.
Invite involvement: Bring your loved one into the search process. Let them help tour, pick apartments, or choose services.
Plan for transitions: Talk about how visiting, moving belongings, and settling in would work; reassure them that this is their home, too.
Visit Communities- Questions to ask and Things to look for during a tour.
Gather Information - Power of Attorney, Living Will, Medical cards, Medical Providers, Financial Information including Checking Account access, Insurance Policies and Family Contacts.
Long-Term Care Insurance - Become an Authorized Representative so that you have access to policy information. Find out what the policy entails by talking to representatives in insurance and in Assisted Living.